Gone are the days of hiding photographic evidence of my existence. I’ve avoided taking photos with my girls, my husband, and many others. For years it has been like this. I would only go in photos if I had to. People often say “Oh, but you do not take a bad photo ever!”, but that is not how I feel. I have always been very hard on myself whenever I see a photo of myself. I’ve evaded capturing memories for a long time.
Gone are the days of hiding my double chin, my mama body that’s covered in stretch marks and rolls, my super messy hair that often ends up tossed into a bun, the dark blue bags under my eyes, and so much more. No more hiding any of this! No more withholding how I look because I am not what society declares to be perfect. I have imperfections, and I am okay with that!
I want to be in the picture and a part of the memories that are captured. My oldest daughter has started to love taking photos, and we gave her my old point and shoot camera. She is often asking if she can take my photo, without hesitation, I always say yes. I know it will make her happy, and I want my daughter to see that I am confident in who I am. She is also always asking for me to take photos with her. I want both of my girls to get to look back at photos and see that I was there for different family events, for the day to day, and so much more. I don’t want to be missing, and undocumented from our life.
My girls will see me with and without makeup, messy hair and not caring, to being all dressed up for special events. They are going to see me. I am the woman who carried them both for 9 months, the one who has too many stretch marks to count, the one who has changed their diapers, and cleaned up all their messes. I am the one who has cuddled them when they have gotten hurt and held them til they fell asleep for the night. I am the one who got up multiple times during the night and was running on caffeine the next day just to stay awake.
I will be everywhere in their lives, and I am hiding no longer when someone wants a photo of all of us. I will be the one initiating photo opportunities, even if it means I have to take a selfie with my girls. My children will have many visual memories of me to look back on. When all is said and done, I will be there! No more hiding.
If you have Instagram I would love for you to join me in using #mamasinthephoto whenever you share a photo of you with your kids. Let’s all support and encourage one another! Don’t let anything stop you from saving memories by taking photos of you with your family.