We brought our youngest home 5 months ago, and have since been asked many times if we are planning to have more. Right now the answer is simply that we are very happy with our two sweet girls. This question though has got me wondering how do you know if this is your last baby?
We’ve talked about it back and forth. Will we be a family with two kids, or will there be more in our future? So many different things come up when we talk about the future, and wether our family will be expanding more, or not.
Emotions play a huge part. There is definitely room for more in our hearts, but emotionally I don’t know if I could go through another pregnancy. My fear of another miscarriage is huge, and I worry about how I would handle things if we ended up going through another, or even multiple miscarriages. I just don’t think my heart could handle another. While my two pregnancy with both of my girls have been pretty smooth, I have had doubts, and fears looming in my mind each time and that takes a huge toll on you as a person, and as a couple
Finances do play a factor. Can we provide for more children? We are blessed to have a town house with three bedrooms, and a bit of a yard. Those are two things that won us over. We do however live in a place where the housing market is crazy, and the cost of living is very high. We want to be able to have our kids take part in activities, and be able to save up for family trips. We also are putting some money into savings for them for furthering their education. We do not want our kids worrying about when their next meal will be. Looking at financial stability is huge.
We have talked about adoption a couple of times. It’s something that comes up, and we think about it and pray about it. The other day we asked our oldest what she thought of the idea of if we were to some day adopt a brother. She of course loved that idea. It is something that we seem to keep coming back to, and who knows maybe we will have another child join our family through adoption some day.
But still… how do you know if your current baby is also your last baby?
For now, we do not truly know. We are soaking up all the little moments. Seeing her roll over, learning how to sit, and wearing outfits that we know will be the last time she has them on because her little feet have grown again and do not fit. I don’t know if we will ever have that for sure moment where we say and feel that we are done. For now we will follow our little girl through each stage. We’ve made it through being a newborn, and now we continue on through this journey of her being a baby. We also have her big sister in the preschooler phase, and we slightly freaked out when we realized how soon she will be in kindergarten. We are still very much at the beginning for both our girls. For now, we are happy where we are.
Did you know that your baby was your last?